How to Choose an Executor for Your NJ Will

Deciding who will control your estate when you are gone is crucial. After you pass away, the executor of your will or estate plan will make decisions based on your instructions. They will be legally responsible for selling any property, paying off debts, dealing with any legal issues during the probate process, and distributing assets to your beneficiaries. This vital job needs to be handled by someone you trust. This person must be capable and willing to do the job.
If you are considering who to name as the executor of your estate, here are some things to keep in mind:
1. Choose Someone Responsible
A high sense of responsibility is the number one quality you should be looking for in a potential executor. Knowledge of legal or financial issues is not necessarily going to mean anything during the probate process—but the ability to address problems quickly and effectively is essential. You want an executor who is willing to communicate with experts to ensure your estate is settled correctly, can stay organized, and can meet important deadlines. The ability to make decisions that may sometimes be difficult is also crucial. Your executor will be paid for their services from your estate. Therefore, you should choose someone who will treat the position like a job.
If you do not have anyone you trust to be responsible for your estate once you are gone, you can appoint an attorney, financial advisor, or other professional representative. Remember that these professionals will likely charge more for their services than a family member or friend would.
2. Choose Someone Good with Finances
Ideally, your executor will be someone who has their personal finances in check. Even if you trust the person to do right by your will and follow your wishes, it can be difficult for those in shaky financial situations to act as executors. Someone with many creditors, a poor credit history, liens against them, or has filed bankruptcy may struggle to get bonded. "Bonding" is a kind of insurance that is required during the probate process. This insurance is intended to protect the estate's creditors and heirs. If the bonding insurance company feels the executor is a risk, they may not extend a bond, and the court will likely choose a new executor.
3. Choose Someone Who Will Outlive You
You can name multiple executors in your will. With that in mind, it is a good idea to name a younger executor as an alternative if your first executor predeceases you or is no longer capable of acting on your behalf. You can explicitly list the circumstances in which this younger person will act as your executor. For example, if your wife is the executor of your will, you could name your oldest child to act as the executor if your wife cannot serve.
4. Choose Someone Who isn’t into Drama
Relationships are complicated. It is possible that one or more of your beneficiaries does not get along. Even if you do not anticipate that there will be issues surrounding the settling of your estate, you need to choose an executor who will stay out of the drama, stick to your expressed wishes, and make fair decisions on your behalf.
For example, let's say you have two children. They do not get along or speak to each other. If you name one of your children the executor, they could use this position to cause hardship to the non-executor sibling. The best way to deal with this is to grant both children co-executorship OR to simply name a non-biased third party as your executor. The latter option is typically the least difficult of the two.
Either way, your executor needs to make decisions on your behalf with your wishes in mind first. Someone who can keep personal options and preferences out of the probate process is the best choice for an executor.
5. Communicate Your Choice
Once you decide who to name as your executor, you must talk to the person about your expectations. They should know they are listed as your executor, understand your wishes, and have the contact information for relevant professionals involved in your estate plan. Ask this person if they are willing to be the executor of your will and ensure that they understand this position's responsibilities. If they are unable or unwilling to serve as your executor, it is better to know now than when it is too late.
George Veitengruber is a full-service estate planning attorney in New Jersey. Veitengruber Law has worked with clients for years to protect their assets and gain peace of mind about the legacy they will leave when they are gone. We can help you determine the best estate plan for your circumstances.


